“You’re just like your father.”
According to Womansday.com and many psychologists, this is a cruel way of poking at your husband’s fear that he exhibits the worst traits of his father. He wants to be his own man!
“Just leave it––I’ll do it myself!”
This can hurt your husband doubly, because it takes away from his ability to take care of his family, and it insinuates that he can’t do something right - even something as simple as cleaning up or washing the dishes.
That’s what real love amounts to—letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending, performing. You get to love your presence. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act—and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.
That’s what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you’re not so lovable.